Ramblings Writings

independent women

“I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”

Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

i hear/see the words ”independent women” thrown around, with the normality of spotting deers on vancouver Island, or grizzly bears on the mainland (it’s the west coast, don’t ask!).


“oh my god, you are my role model, so amazing to see an independent business woman”, gushes a young girl over a female business owner.


but why is it so out of the norm, wow-worthy, put on a pedestal and display in the museum of rare occurrences?


because women are still thought of as dependent fragile delicates?


the mentality that women, who can more than fend for themselves, are scarce examples of additional work and determination, befuddles me. it’s limiting.


every man, woman, or human, has the inner resources to survive on their own and even flourish.


so shouldn’t we gasp and be shocked when a woman is dependent? not the other way around?


[what defines independency, anyways? setting aside the unnecessary materials that corporates shovel in our heads, we are all dependent on food, shelter, companionship, and love.]


what are your thoughts on this?

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  1. Hmm, nice thought-provoking post, Em. I think women should be celebrated for their accomplishments but that care should be taken not to seem solicitous or patronizing. I am hoping that, with the record number of women entering American political races this year, it’ll help jump-start a new era of respect for and appreciation of women on their own merits instead of as men’s inferiors.

    1. i am hoping for the same, thanks for sharing your thoughts Denny, always appreciated

  2. All women that I married were and are always independent. Good for them, it is what attracted me to them.

    I might have to work on my coping skills, not as far as allowing them to be independent, but just knowing when to get out of the way.

    1. Thanks for sharing Ron, very glad to know

  3. The myth used to be that men didn’t like independent women – and I was always one of those – and then I learned the importance of interdependence – that to be able to meet each other’s needs is part of a healthy relationship. I wrongly equated independence with having no needs. Slowly, we evolve.

    1. yes, exactly, well put, thanks for sharing your insight x

  4. Now that you mention it, the label “independent woman” does seem pretty insulting – by implying that most women aren’t independent. Strangely enough, it seems to me that men are far more dependent on women than the other way around.

    1. yea, right? it occurred to me only recently, why are independant women celebrated like they are near extinction

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