“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt,
Let’s talk about the dangling things that sometimes blur my vision, my bangs!
I have a cut it/grow it relationship with them. I have never been a fan of my face, ( who hasn’t said this before?) and as a result I was always self-conscious of my features.
I could never find a hairstyle that made me feel good about my face and skull shape. I did some drastic haircuts, from pixie cuts to shaving one side of my head – not my wisest years.
Then when I was about 18, I got the classic straight bangs. And this mop-like hair style made me feel confident, comfortable, and beautiful for the first time. It hid a lot of my face, so it felt like a sort of permanent security blanket on my head.
Then I went through periods when I would grow them out for various reasons:
“It makes your cheeks look even chubbier”
“You look like a pumpkin”
“It brings the focus to your nose”
“You can’t see you eyebrows”
“You look 15”
But who cares?
I am the one who has to walk around with this on perching on top of my body, and I don’t care it’s not a suitable haircut for my face shape or not.
I feel like me with this hair, I don’t have to squander time turning my strands of hair into odd shapes and then spend the rest of the hours worrying about how it is exhibiting.
I feel shielded from my own judgement, and can get out of the house with bed hair still treading on cloud nine.
To me, the inner satisfaction with my looks, is me being pretty, not outer validation.
What do you think? Do you agree? Is there anything you do which is not technically “flattering”, but still makes you feel confident?